Friday, April 16, 2010

She's a baby, it's inevitable she's gonna cry....

Why is this concept so hard for me to accept?  The moment I hear a fuss out of Macy I run, whisk her up in my arms, tell her "it's ok, mama's here" and cover her in kisses.  It's kinda nauseating.  If I'm busy and hear her cry I yell for Jason to grab her and cuddle with her.  I get totally annoyed when a) he takes his sweet time getting to her because he is too busy watching Wheel of Fortune or b) he refuses and tells me it's ok if she cries for a while. 

What, you have got to be kidding?!  I can't let my baby just cry.

Prior to actually having a child I always thought that I would be the tough parent.  From an early age I would teach my child that crying for no reason won't get you any where.  I thought that once my child reached the age when he/she understood how to work the system (i.e. - crying = attention) I would put my foot down and teach them that crying =/= attention.  I watched enough Super Nanny to know that I didn't want a snot nosed brat like those kids on that show.  OMG, aren't those kids horrible?! 

But now that I have my own child I can understand how those parents on Super Nanny ended up in the position they are in.  Those parents, I'm sure, were just like me.  I'm sure they thought they were going to be unsympathetic to a whiny child.  But once their babies arrived they became total push overs and jumped at their baby's every cry. 

Ugh.  I am beginning to think it's against my genetic code to let Macy cry.  It takes every fiber of my being not to pick her up when she is fussy.  Seriously, I need to be able to go to the bathroom and not feel guilty that I am not tending to my crying child.  I have to keep telling myself she won't be scared for life if she cries for more than 5 minutes in her lifespan.  Babies DO cry and it's ok.  I am getting better, but I still have a ways to go......

3 comments:

Amy said...

My Grandma always tells me that Alana needs to exercise her lungs. It kills me to let her cry too, but she's right -- their lungs do need exercise!

Kathy M. said...

I try to look at it this way too. Hmm, maybe if I cry long enough it will help me loose the baby weight! I am in desperate need of exercise!

Hello Sneakers, Goodbye Heels said...

I love reading your blog because I relate to almost every single thing you write...including this! My husband always says,"She's a baby, she's supposed to cry." But, like you, I feel like she will be emotionally scarred if I let her cry for even two minutes. And like you, I DO NOT want to raise one of those Super Nanny kids!! Once she hits around six months, I'll toughen up on her...I think.